When couples and families experience high levels of stress, communication decreases and people hold onto issues, sometimes for years. Sex, money, and child raising practices become issues in which family members struggle for power. Dinnertime, bedtime, school events and the marital bed become battlegrounds for the struggles.
Individual therapy cannot address these issues, as they are not about one person, they are about relationships. Couples or whole families may need to learn to communicate with each other, to uncover their love buried in power struggles and to find new, non-hurtful, ways to communicate. Like any skill, these must be practiced and perfected under the guidance of a counselor-coach until they come naturally and the health of the relationship is restored.